A few months back an Islamic website quizzed its readers, specially females:
" Did you ever had a crush on your Shaikh?"
There were 700 plus ladies who had answered and a large number of them admitted that some times and some where they had felt the pinch of it.
How far these types of surveys allowed to be taken in an Islamic society is an issue for the Scholars.
Crush means to have a rosy feeling for somebody of opposite sex you admire. It may be because you like his or her style or skills or any good thing he or she posseses.
Infatuation is a synonym for crush.
Young boys and girls have this sting of crush and infatuation towards their class mates and school mates and in neighbourhood as well.
Teachers and pyschologists say that it is natural to happen.
Many movie writers and novelists have exploited this temptation and written stories around it thus upgrading the initial stages of temptation towards bold approaches with phrases like " Whats wrong in it ?"
Crush and Infatuation are forms of satanic whispers that appear soft and tickling to one's heart. Islamically you can say that it is an early stage of fornication. Buds of Fornication that grow into thorns rather than flowers because most of these crushes and infatuations ends in heart breaks. This leads to a replacement with a hunt for a better one. one bead ties to another and the person becomes immodest and remains such. Affairs via interent and face book and sms on mobiles are common route to devilish boldness. A few reasons why teens don't consider crushes and infatuations as early signs of fornication and Fahishaa :
1. Because nobody tells them that it is bad, rather elders boast before them about their own crushes in their school days.
2. Because every body around them are into it. Every one seems to have crushes on movie heroes, sportsmen and women, good looking famous personalities.....
3. It is circulated in a very alluring manner
4. Nobody shares their agony or mental trauma that they had undergone during this phase, thus letting the crushes be as rosy as it appears.
Don't forget that every huge tree begins with a small seed or sapling and then it roots reaches far off under the ground making it to strong to be uprooted. Its roots suck up water from the earth underground to keep itself healthy and strong. Crushes and Infatuations are seeds of fornications and adultery.
If you water them with rozy fantasies, day dreams, gift cards.... then you are raising up a huge tree with its roots so deep and far that it will suck up your religous spirits and sentiments too .....
The right hadith that comes to my mind :"
There is a lump of flesh in every body, if it is good then all the actions are good and if it is sick then all the actions are sick ( devilish ).. and indeed that lump of flesh is HEART..
AUTHOR : Nisaar Nadiadwala speaks and writes on Islam and Muslims. He canbe reached at email@example.com