10 Principles for Peaceful Life

1. Do Not Interfere In Others’ Business Unless Asked: Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, i.e. our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently undermines the Intelligence and Creativity that is only attributed to Allah. Allah has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because Allah has made each one of us different, with different personalities. Be patient with one another, and mind your own business and you will keep your peace. 
2.  Forgive And Forget: This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind, but also challenging to achieve. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insult us or harm us. We nurture grievances resulting in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. We further aggravate stress in ourselves by remembering, and reminding ourselves of the very persons that caused us harm. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3.  Do Not Crave For Recognition: This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless; they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their recognition? Do your duties ethically and sincerely, and only seek the pleasure of Allah through Salah and Ibadah.
4. Do Not Be Jealous: We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbour whose business is only a one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember, a person’s life is shaped by their destiny, which becomes their reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. And if you are destined to be poor, then no matter what you do, you will only be what you are destined to be. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself: If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured: Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew: We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, and introspection. It will prevent you from thinking of matters that upset you. An uncluttered mind is a peaceful mind.
8. Make Regular Dhikr: Dhikr, the remembrance of Allah, calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. Try it yourself. If you do tasbih, dhikr, whenever you are free, your mind will be at peace during the day. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant: An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile and negative thoughts will not plague your mind. Actively follow a hobby, something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret: Do not waste time in protracted wondering, “Should I or shouldn’t I?” You can never plan enough because you can never fully anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done now. It does not matter if you fail the first time, so long as you don’t leave it for tomorrow. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen. Why cry over spilt milk?

[Courtesy : Morals and Ethics]

An Orphan's Tear by Bara'a(the little girl who passed away)

Here is the English translation for the orphan song which was sung beautifully by this girl Bara’a.

O tear of the Orphan

O painful letters

My father has died,

so tell the merciful souls

O tear of the Orphan

O tear of the Orphan

O painful letters

My father has died,

so who is there for me,

to throw love around me

O tear of the Orphan

Tell them so that I may,

Get generous hands Get generous hands

O tear of the Orphan

O painful letters

My father has died,

so tell the merciful souls

O tear of the Orphan

Tell them the story of the young,

Who have gone to bed without guardian,

O broken tears

O tear of the Orphan

O painful letters

My dear fathers;

the speech has frozen in the mouth

And we are left with an orphaned tears…

with an orphaned tears…

with an orphaned tears…

with an orphaned tears…

(With great saddness and sorrow the little girl Bara’a has passed away.We ask the Almighty God

to recieve her soul  with His Love and Mercy. ”We are belong to God and to Him we shall all return-Quran”)

Here is Bara’a story :

Inspirational Story of “Bara’a”

Bara’a is a 10 year old girl from Egypt and belong to small happy religious family. Both of her parents are doctors and have moved to Saudi Arabia for better opportunities. Bara’a is a very sweet and intelligent young girl and she succeeded, at this young age, to memorize the entire Quran along with its proper rules. Unfortunately, tragedy was in its way to change the course of life for this young girl.

One day her mother felt a lot of pain and after some medical tests she was diagnosed with a deadly form of cancer. Then her mother began to think about her young girl’s future and how she can tell “Bara’a” of the devastating news. How she would wake up one day without her mother besides her. Afterward the mother decided to tell her daughter and said:

“Mommy will soon be going to Heaven, ahead of you, sweet heart”

She emphasized to her that she should continue reciting the Holy Quran everyday which would protect her and keep her safe in this life.  At this time Bara’a could not fully comprehend what lays ahead. Soon after, she began to recognize the gravity of the matter when her mother’s health deteriorated and she was admitted to the hospital. Then Bara’a began going to visit her mother at the hospital every day after school and recite the holy Quran next to her mother’s bed until late in the afternoon. She keeps doing that until her father would come from work to pick her up.

One morning the hospital called the house and asked Bara’a’s father to come to the hospital immediately for his wife’s health has gone for the worse and she was near death. The father immediately took his daughter Bara’a and left for the hospital, but he did not inform his daughter what was going on with her mother. When they arrived at the hospital he thought to himself that he should leave his daughter in the car so that she would not be shocked of whatever is waiting to happen to her mother. Therefore he asked his daughter to stay in the car while he finds out more of her mother’s situation and he assured her he would be back in a few minutes. He stepped out of the car and his eyes are filled with tears; bewildered of the grim news of the fate of his wife. While he was walking away from his car Bara’a was watching him crossing then another tragedy hit; he was struck by an incoming bus and was killed immediately. She ran out of her car hysterically and threw herself at her father‘s dead body.

Bara’a’s tragic events do not end here. The hospital staff did not tell Bara’a’s sick mother, who was fighting for her life at the hospital, of the death of her husband which occurred on his way to see her. Five days after, Bara’s mother lost her battle with cancer and died leaving Bara’a alone in Saudia Arabia with no family members nor  relatives. She lost her mother and father in the same week.  Some friends and good people who were touched by the tragedy of Bara’a story attempted to help her to return to her grand parent family back in Egypt. While arrangements were under way to send Bara’a home, another tragedy came her way again but this time she was the target. She experienced a sudden pain and after some medical test sure enough she was diagnosed with same form of cancer which killed her mother. At this point, when Bara’a was told of her diagnosis of cancer she smiled and said: all praise be to Allah, at last, I will be seeing my Baba and Mama soon.

It is extraordinary to see this young child  welcome death and accept the decree of God which has befallen upon her.

Bara’s tragic story became known in Saudia Arabia then an anonymous Saudi Man, a good Samaritan, decided to send Bara’a to London for medical treatment. While Bara’a was being treated in the hospital in London she was interviewed by an  Egyptian TV station, called al-Hafiz TV. She was asked to recite verses from the holy Quran aired for a special program dedicated to Quran recitation. Her recitation was powerful and heavenly sweet and brought tears to the program anchor. I am certain it will bring tears to anyone who listens to her beautiful recitation (see link below).

The cancer has taken its toll on Bara’s health and she went through a lot of pain and suffering in the hospital. She was going into commas periodically. During these difficult times, another TV station interviewed her in the hospital and asked her to recite a song about the Mother and orphans. She made millions crying in the Arab world while she was singing .

Days past and she continues living at the mercy of the cancer which by now has spread to her legs which doctors decided to amputate in an attempt to limit the spread of her cancer. During these difficult times she has continued to go into comma periodically but when she is awake she begins to recite Quran to keep her spirit alive. Days passed, the cancer spread to her brain and doctors decided to perform brain surgery to remove the cancer cells. She is still in the hospital fighting for her life. So please remember her in your Du’a and May Allah the most High save her life.

Listen to Bara’a Quran recitation by clicking the below link

Another link
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xadyjt_islam-y-magnifique-recitation-du-qu_webcam

Guide to Perform Hajj and Umrah in English with Video

 

"This is very interesting video which we present to be a beacon for the pilgrims and who wants to perform Umrah to avoid mistakes during this trip. It shows the rites of hajj step by step. He also shows the results (i.e. expiation and ransom) of leaving a rite of these rites. It refers to the misconceptions and common mistakes made by pilgrims. It also mentions the required etiquette which should be taken into account while visiting the Mosque of the Prophet (peace be upon him)."

May Allah SWT accepts our Pilgrimage...Aameen